How long will it take for us????
Mothers are the most important persons of our lives. They are the source of our being in this world. This is the reason why Islam has put so much emphasis on the rights of our mothers. We all know the hadith where mothers are mentioned as the door to jannah. In Bengali culture, these mothers are not given as much respect as they deserve compared to the fathers. According to the culture, when the parents get divorced or fathers die, the custody of the children goes to the fathers and fathers' families respectively. They pretend like, mothers do not have any rights over their children. The situation is totally different in Islam. According to the shariah law, mothers get the custody of the children after the parents get divorced or the fathers' death. Moreover, Islam has made the women the rightful inheritor of the husbands' and fathers' property. Most of the time, we do not know these rulings. Even if we know, we do not care. These mistreatment regarding the children are justified by the belief that children carry their fathers' progeny only. Scientifically the fact is the opposite. Mothers' genes are the only ones that stays unchanged and intact in the children not the fathers'. This evidence should be enough for the people who do not want to accept the shariah law. If we ask any modern families, they will say, "we respect our mothers. Don't you see that we give them gifts on the mother's day?" Should mothers be only respected only on one day of the year? Even though we say that the mothers are getting more respect now than the old times but the truth is we are actually in the worst situation compared to the old times. The rights we are striving to get now were given to us by the almighty 1500 years ago but we ignore it. I really wonder how long will it take for us to accept the shariah law and implement that in our life????
You bring up a lot of interesting points. You might want to also mention the hadith of somes sign of the DOJ, one being "When a slave (lady) gives birth to her master (Sahih Bukhari). http://www.searchtruth.com/searchHadith.php?keyword=birth+to+master&translator=1&search=1&book=&start=0
ReplyDeleteI read/ heard somewhere that this hadith means mothers will be mistreated by her children... Yes it is bad enough that men/ elders disrespect mothers/ women, but unfortunately some of us children (the younger genreation that should change the bad we see in our cultures instead of promoting it) are used to the disrespect we see our mothers get and make our mother's situation even worse by disrespecting her as well :( May Allah help us all become better sons and daughters and not signs of the judgement day. Ameen. After all, if we don't change, we might get the same thing back at us when we are parents...
The topic of mothers reminded me of a poem I wrote last year (#2 Most Influential Person in History), which can be read @ http://sfraww.blogspot.com/2013/05/poem-rewrites.html
You are absolutely right. But children thinks it is right to disrespect their mothers when they see others especially fathers or other family members disrespecting the same person. To me, it is kind of a learned behavior. Few days ago, a woman approached me and told me her situation in her household. She was never respected by her husband or other family members as a result she was never respected by her own children.:-( As the young generation we definitely have to try our best to improve this situation but this is not one man's job. We have to stand up collectively against these cultural norms and all other beliefs that defines muslim women as oppressed!!!
DeleteAbsolutely agree with this, "As the young generation we definitely have to try our best to improve this situation but this is not one man's job. We have to stand up collectively against these cultural norms and all other beliefs that defines Muslim women as oppressed!!!
DeleteI love how you combine Islam and Bengali culture in the posts I have read so far! Keep it up :)