Who are we observing the hijab for?????

All these days i was thinking myself, what should be the next topic for my writing about women in our culture. I could not come up with anything until recently when I visited my friend's house. My topic is hijab!!! I  know it is the same old and boring topic and everybody has already learned about it everywhere. But we still tend to miss one very important part where it says "who should we do hijab from and why?". In Bengali culture, hijab has become a symbol of culture rather than a symbol of religiousness. Almost in every household, we'll be able to see women wearing 'so called' hijab not out of religiousness but out of culture. This is true regarding all Bengali women regardless of age. These women are forced to wear hijab or even veil by their own family members. Once I asked a woman about the reason behind her wearing the full face veil. Her answer was, "my husband feels insecure about me going outside so he makes me wear a veil.". After listening to her, I felt like wearing a veil makes a woman so ugly that it makes other men stay away from her. I know one of the purpose of the hijab is to protect our beauty from non mahram men's eyes but it does not excuse the men from lowering their gazes. In our culture, men are always excused. If a man looks or more specifically stares at a woman, the blame automatically goes to the woman. We blame the woman for not wearing the hijab properly or wearing the dress properly but no one blames the man for staring at the woman. It is like saying 'I understand each and every commandment of Islam but I am ignoring the verse of the quran which states, 'Tell the believing men and women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts.'" This does not mean I am supporting the Bengali Muslim women who do not wear their hijab properly. The sole purpose of wearing hijab and veil should be getting closer to the almighty but not to exempt the men from lowering their gazes. Wearing veil or hijab should be a sign of our pity and obedience toward the almighty Allah not obedience toward the creation(husband). Another big issue is who should we observe the hijab with? We have to observe our hijab with every men except our mahrams. Cousin brothers, brother in laws, husband's nephews, grandfathers and uncles, nieces' husbands do not fall into this mahram category. Ironically, if you observe hijab from these non mahrams, you'll be a subject of criticism. If you do not hang out with your cousin brothers, you are not smart enough. If you do not show your face to your aunts' husbands, you are being disrespectful to them. Moreover, if you do not spend time with your brother in laws, it is made sure that your life with the in laws would be a hell. These sort of attitudes proof that our culture has more authority over us than the almighty Allah. I am not saying all women have the intention to give more importance to culture than the religion. There are many women out there who want to do the proper hijab but cannot do it due to the lack of support from their families. I know that most modern women would say that women do not need support from their male family members but it is not true. I am not talking about financial support here, I am talking about mental support. These male family members have couple of reasons to oppose the observance of the proper hijab. One of them is, I would say, lack of courage to stand up against the cultural norm of the society they are living in. Going against the societal norm is not an easy task, this is probably why the reward is enormous for observing hijab. Prophet (SAW) and his followers have undergone enormous hardships that we cannot even imagine to please the almighty Allah. But we don't think it is worthy to please the almighty in the expense of being an outcast in the society by observing hijab. In fine, we need to understand the definition and the purpose of our observing hijab!!!!