What choice would you make

A bride, a girl, a muslim girl goes to a new house with hundreds of expectations. Marriage is not only between two people but between two families. Ironically, in Bengali culture this very statement is always misunderstood. For the sake of unifying the family, we overlook the unity of the two people who just started their lives and barely know each other. With all these responsibilities, the girl totally forgets about the purpose of wedding itself. I have known so many families where the daughter-in-laws are discouraged to to spend some private time with their husbands except for the night. The end result is that they never get to have a loving relationship between them. According to our culture, this is supposed to be the epitome of an ideal muslim bride. Hold on, is it really what islam says? Has Allah (swt) made the wedding for the purpose of satisfying the in laws only. Ibrahim (As) had told his son Ismail (AS) to change his wife not because she was'nt a good daughter-in-law but because she was'nt content with whatever her husband was providing for her. Religious or non-religious, we all know that the wife who is not contend with her husband is anything but in love with her husband. This very incident with prophet Ibrahim (AS) and Ismail (AS) is used in a totally opposite way in our culture. Fathers refer to this ahadith to convince their son to get rid off their wives for no reason. Their argument is, "You cannot disobey your father when he tells you to get rid off your wife.". This is not Islam, this is culture of the idol worshippers where women had no value at all. I think it is really time for us to choose between paganistic culture and true Islam.

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  1. SabrinaJune 6, 2014 at 7:37 AM

    I don't completely agree with this statement: "Marriage is not only between two people but between two families." I understand this is true to an extent, for example when a couple needs help they can turn to their (own/ inlaw) families, instead of outsiders. It might sound selfish to run to our families for only help/ advice, but isn't that we normally do? We don't always want our families involved in every aspect of our lives while we are single, so why would we when we are married?

    To think marriage is between 2 families more so than the 2 individuals creates the problem that you stated. I think this mentality makes it easy for inlaws to interfere more than they should in the (newly married) couple's lives, creating tons of problem. Idk, just my thoughts as a single :P

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  2. anonymous rebelJune 10, 2014 at 5:13 PM

    I don't completely agree with the statement either. It's just a way that people especially extended family members justify themselves. I am happy that you agreed with me!!!

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    1. Nature DelightJune 12, 2014 at 7:06 AM

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    2. SabrinaJune 12, 2014 at 7:22 AM

      Oh okay. I didnt realize you were actually against this idea :P

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